Don’t forget this if you’re “healing”…
…your goal is to feel good.
Which is to say — be mindful of focusing on and talking incessantly about what you’re healing and why. I’ll explain what to do instead in the next 4 minutes.
Sure, it’s important to acknowledge what happened and what you need and want to address. That isn’t the end game though, is it? Doesn’t feel that great to explain away your power and joy, does it?
Awesome, now we’re on the same page. So if you aren’t focusing on your wounds, what then?
..how about a compelling vision instead?
It’s like this…
…healing heartbreak is a different journey than working toward a vision to enjoy your full, open, and connected heart. The latter includes healing your heartbreak, but that storyline can meander, especially if you start to identify with and build your life around it.
You can focus on your broken heart OR why it’s important for you to have a whole one.
Plus, if you focus on your gaping wound abysses, you’ll probably miss a lot of great things happening now. You could become so concerned with how and why you should feel bad, powerless, or lonely that you neglect to notice when you don’t.
Things will take the time they take and yet you’re the conductor of your attention. What you focus on determines the quality and progression of your days and life.
LET ME EMPHASIZE that focusing intentionally is NOT the same as ignoring what happened, how you feel, or what needs to be done.
Being intentional about your vision isn’t denial. It’s a commitment to SEE, FEEL, AND ACT in accordance with what is without getting mentally stuck on what you don’t want.
In low states, the mind may insist you can’t and won’t get anywhere good from your present problem. That makes things look and feel heavier and harder they may actually be. So heavy and so hard that you may not bother to try to improve things. I think we ignore what needs to be seen, felt, or acted on because we lack confidence in ourselves and life. We opt out of living fully because we deny who we are (an expression of the divine).
If you were assured that you were able, supported, even encouraged to live beautifully and richly, what would be so scary? No problem is too big for you because no problem is too big for the divine.
Yes, the path may be different than the one you have in mind. Sure, sometimes it hurts and seems wrong. Living in harmony with the divine does require a bit of humility.
You might notice I’m saying, ‘Surrender and accept what is.’ And earlier I said, “Hold onto a vision.”
Yes and yes. It’s both, man.
You continue to work toward your vision while you love and accept here and now as it is.
Healing isn’t the end, baby. It’s just the beginning.
Remember…
…your goal is to feel good.
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