you DO create your own reality
Is ‘you create your own reality’ woowoo? Maybe, but it’s also super friggin grounded. How? Your interpretations of daily events and resultant emotions incite actions (or inactions) that add up to your life. I’ll talk about that process in this story.
How you experience your day-to-day seems objective, right? Who wouldn’t be mad about that? Of course, that’s stressful. That is a confusing problem. I’m happy to tell you there’s space between those upsetting events and you. In it, your mind quickly and quietly determines what things mean for you and about you. The meaning it chooses determines how you feel. Those feelings determine what you do. Those choices determine your life. See? You do create your own reality.
I’ll tell you more about that process so you can start to become aware of it. Awareness is king. If you let yourself see it, it will naturally evolve. How do you let yourself see it? Be willing to. Adorably, your idea of yourself is probably afraid to see more clearly. It’s scared it might see who you actually are and to find out once and for all you’re unworthy and doomed. You aren’t. I tell you about those fears so now they’re in your awareness. Yah know, since awareness is king.
Let’s look more at this process. The way YOU think and feel about things isn’t the only way to do it. “Duh,” you might say. “I know that.” I know you do, yet subtle and deeper layers of that process remain unseen. If that wasn’t true, you wouldn’t be reading this.
The way you interpret what happens is what generates how you feel, not the event itself. That means if you’re stressed or mad, you likely think it’s because of something that’s happening. It’s not. It’s a result of what you think what’s happening means. How you think about most things is learned and often not that empowering. How could it be? Most of the messaging we get from the world is to be wary of dangers and to be different than we are.
Identity plays a role in meaning application too as humans are inclined to stay consistent with who they think they are. This looks like reading events in a way that reinforces beliefs about yourself. There can be helpful & unhelpful threads of this. Helpful: “I’m good at problems.”-> Feels empowered to tackle it. Unhelpful: “I’m good at problems.”-> Finds problems to feel important or worthy.
In general, event interpretation and resultant feelings sum up to either ‘This is OK,” or ‘This is *not* OK.” Those poles break out into an array of feelings and thoughts, but your net interpretation is either one of OK or not.
If not OK, then there is fear. In fear, lesser parts of the brain are engaged in thinking and this likely results in poorer quality decisions. Those choices add up to less favorable life circumstances -> your reality.
In OK’ness, more creative, constructive, and collaborative thinking is available and thereby the quality of decisions made is likely better.
This process behaves sort of like a spiral. If you feel OK and make good choices, you’ll likely continue that trend. Similarly, if you’re in fear & are making lower decisions, you’ll likely feel like you’re spiraling down. Don’t worry if that happens. You can interrupt it by accepting it.
In attempting to fight a downward spiral, you essentially say “This is not OK.” Which ogenerates more fear & adds to the downward spiral. By somehow coming to accept & appreciate whatever’s happening, you can then exit the downward spiral by tapping into those higher faculties again. Acceptance is usually facilitated through understanding, but all understanding (even the best scientific kind) is still only a good guess. Knowing that you can, if you wish, skip the work of trying to understand and go straight for acceptance.
On the spiral, you generally feel if you’re going up or down. That feeling makes a big difference in your quality of life. You don’t have to climb the whole spiral to feel better. You only have to start to feel like you’re going up. The spiral is a limited illustration in that it implies a hierarchy or privileged place. But the spiral, as I see it, is multidimensional and more dynamic. I point that out so you don’t try to climb it. Westerners always want something to climb.
The main point of this story is to bring to light the subtle ‘n sneaky application of subjective meaning and the impact that those interpretations have. They create your reality. And since you can be in charge of them. Yes, you my friend, create your own reality. Being mindful of this process can help you make new choices of interpretation (or go straight to acceptance) to allow the net feeling to be one of OK’ness. The OK’ness is important because of how it impacts your physiology and the parts of the brain it makes available to respond to and create life.
MOST IMPORTANT to fostering net OK’ness — let yourself feel how you feel. Decide how you feel must be OK. ❤ By seeing and loving yourself and your experience, you offer yourself a very powerful message of EVERYTHING IS OK. The more you work with and accept however you’re feeling and whatever you’re doing, the faster this process can be retooled in a higher way.
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